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August 30, 2006

Vegas Diaries Part 4 esque...

Okay...so my Vegas trip almost ended a little early when I almost went to jail this morning. Lee and I got up and headed downstairs where a cab was waiting to take us to the Magic. We get in and the conversation goes like this..ahem...

Me: Hi, we are going to the convention center, south hall

Cab Driver: Okay

Me:Oh and we need to go to the back side of the south hall

CB: I don't know what you mean.

Lee: There is another entrance on the backside of the hall, we need to go there

CB: There is only one entrance to the convention center and that is in the front, so i don't know what you are talking about

Lee: If you go around the back, there is another entrance

CB: Is it on John Wayne Avenue

Lee: I'm not sure what the street name is, but it is in the back of the convention center

CB: Well if you've been there before then you should know what the name of the street is and how to get there

ME: WOW, you know what? All you need to do, is take us where we asked, Just get us to the convention center and then go to the back. All of this unnecessary

 

SILENCE

So we get to the convention center...

CB: See, there is not entrance to the back side, I don't know what you guys are talking about...

Lee: Just drop us off here...

So we stop and he stops at the furthest distance from the door he could. The fair added up to $6.20. So Lee hands him a 10.

Lee:I'd like change back

CB: What are you waiting for a reciept?

Lee: No I'm waiting for my change

CB: Oh you want change?

He proceeds to huff and puff and hands Lee 3 dollars in change.

Lee: Alright, you have a blessed day

CB: Yeah, you too, And I'll really have a blessed day if i get another fair like you...

Lee was already out of the car, but stuck his head back in...

Lee: What?!

CB: silence....

I slid out of the car and had to count to fifty to calm down because old boy really almost got us caught up...

 

Oh yeah, and on the boy update...I'm up to three numbers and a marriage proposal! VIVA LAS VEGAS! LOL!!! Peace Y'all

August 29, 2006

Vegas Diaries Part 3ish

I promise part 1 is coming! LOL!!

So, here we are day two at the magic show and things are going cool. Today is flying by, which is cool, mainly because we decided that today was going to be a good day, and so far it has been. On my end, i have been introduced to a new magazine which i will be subscribing to when I get back to the bay. YRB which stands for Yellow Rat Bastards! LOL!! But it really is a good magazine and the free bag they gave with the magazine didn't hurt either! LOL!!! Today seems to be busier then yesterday. I think people are finally flying in and actually coming to the show. BUt if nothing else, this has been a crazy learning experience. FOr one thing, I am learning alot about fashion. One of the banners up says, "Fashion begins where rules end..." Clearly. It seems that one of the new trends in fashion include obnoxiously bright tennis shoes that have absolutely nothing to do with your outfit. So, for example, if you are wearing a green shirt, and khaki shorts, you will have one some purple, gold, yellow, burgandy and orange tennis shoes on to complete your fit. NO TANTO MUCHO! BUt it seems like obnoxious is the trend. THe brighter, the bolder, the more non-sensical it is, the closer you get to the true definition of fashion. And here I was thinking I was doing something by not ironing. Its crazy. The more you don't match and the more you just look a hot mess, the closer you are to fashion. Well, me being the non conformist that I am, I opt to just do me. Wife beaters, jeans and flip flops please, thankkkk youuuu... THis place is crazy!! LOL!! BUt I am having a really good time. For some reason as I stay here, I am getting more and more excited about my own career. Watching Lee do his thing, pursue his dream, take a chance and hope for the best, really makes me want to do the same. I'm really excited to see Ragamuffin next year and watch them blow up! I look forward to the day when we sit around talking about the days when we first got started. Ragamuffin is awesome because it stands for something. Like a lot of these companies, aren't about anything at all, but because they represent the garbage that the media has said is cool, and these buyers guess that people will buy them, so they snatch it up, even though, it stands for absolutely nothing. I don't know. Fashion is what it is, trends will come and go. But I do know that i'm about to go holler at some lime green, turquiose, banana yellow, chili red and black kicks...you don't know me son! I'm about to come back stunnin'!

 Peace Y'all!

August 28, 2006

Vegas Diaries

Okay, so I wrote a blog on my computer yesterday, and I don't have it with me now, but I will post it sometime this week.

Anywho...

TOday is the first day of the magic show and things are going cool. If nothing else it is really cool being in this type of environment. There are smaller companies such as Ragamuffin that are pulling out all the stops to get attention, and then there are the bigger companies, such as rocawear and phat farm that you have to make appointments to get in to. Crazy madness. I am very hopped up on my double espresso latte, and ready to make this happen. One thing i can say is that there are some GORGEOUS men here, 90 percent of which are gay, but dag nab they are so nice to look at! LOL!!! The current tempurature outside is 103 degrees...and i have to be perfectly honest and say that I am amped!!! Vegas is a whole other world though, i have to be really honest. Cedric the Entertainer was wrong when he said that you can't smoke on ERF anymore...that is not true. In planet Vegas, you are free to smoke whereever you want to without anyone saying anything to you at all. It really tripped me out the first time i saw a woman smoking in the casino, inside the building. There are ashtrays EVERYWHERE including in the chairs in the lobby Its crazy. I was not ready for that, but I have to say that this is a totally different world. I have never checked into a hotel and been asked to put something on the electricity bill!!! I'm not joking. THere was a 5 dollar per day energy deposit required! I almost fell out. So I paid the little fee, but you best believe that I am getting every penny worth! I had all the lights on, tv, computer, fan...don't play me...If I'm going to be paying bills, I'm going to be getting my monies worth! OAKLAND!!!! But yes, things are going well. I got my browing gel glistening on my legs and arms...trying come back chocolate!!! I'm tired of being the only light skinned person in vegas! LOL!!!! No for real. But anyway, Lee's looking at me crazy, so i need to get back to charming these buyers...I'll be back if anything exciting happens...lets cross our fingers I can snag one of these fine brothers!!! LOL!!! No for real!

Peace Y'all 

August 25, 2006

The Past

            Just when you think you are over the past, have moved on from it and let it go, it always manages to creep back in and sting you one good time, reminding you that it is there. It’s funny because as I really inch forward in my walk with God, I am almost anticipating some mess to happen, then here comes the past. I guess the difference is that I have amazing people in my life that I can call on and get perspective on things and will hold my hand when sometimes its too much. One great lesson I have learned in the past year is that you really don’t always have to be the good guy, and most importantly, you don’t have to explain yourself all the time! If I don’t want you in my life, or want you to be a part of mine, that is all that needs to be said, and its done. And the same goes for you. Not everyone you come in contact with, no matter how deep the history, deserves to be a part of your life. And then there are those people that you cling to with both hands and feet to make sure they don't drift away. The past is called that for a reason. Instead of letting it have power of me, because honestly, I could really be sitting here thinking about it, fretting over it, worrying about it, or I could simply not be, that is the beautiful thing about choices. We have the choice of whether or not to dwell on it, or to accept it for what it is, and move on. I am making the conscience choice to leave it where it is and move away from it. Sometimes, you have to close certain doors and leave certain things unsaid in order to move on, but I think that is a small price to pay for a little piece of mind. I realize that all of this is a lot easier said then done, but honestly, that is how it goes down sometimes. We have to make difficult choices in order to improve our own quality of life. And I will say this from now until the day I die…ROSA INC. is one of THE best things that ever happened to me! I love you ROSE! WHOOOOOO!!!

 

Peace Y’all!

August 24, 2006

Just Another Thursday

            So, today seems like it’s going to be a good day. I went into the doctor today and got my final check up and she says that I am fine and I’ve lost 11 pounds AND I can start going back into the gym. I can’t do any upper body work for the next two weeks, BUT I can do lower body and cardio, so I am super amped! I can start taking my crack pills again and get it cracking back in the gym…happy days are here again!! I’m excited!!!

            Tomorrow kicks off my super fabulous 9 count them 9 days off from work and life really. It all kicks off with a grown and sexy party with CAL’s elite Black graduate students and then off to Vegas for a week and then the Art and Soul Festival in Oakland…oh yes. It goes down. I wonder if this bright smile on my face has anything to do with the fact that the sun is actually out today?! LOL!!! It won’t last, but I feeling that this smile will!!!

            And one last thing that has me AMPED…Cal Football will be starting in just two short Saturdays, and yes I have my Season passes in the works, my “I Bleed Blue and Gold” t-shirt waiting for me and I am good to go. GO BEARS! So I am excited! Look out for those Golden Bears smashing through the PAC 10…maybe Fall isn’t so bad after all!! LOL! Peace Y’all!

August 23, 2006

Just a little Ranting and Raving! LOL!

I was going to write about the second half of the Katrina Documentary, but out of respect for my dear friend, who has yet to see it, but reads my blogs, I will refrain. But I will say this…make sure you watch it!!!

 

 

Anywho…I woke up this morning and looked out of my bedroom window and saw a vast grayness in the sky. If I didn’t know any better, I would thought we were in the middle of winter instead of the finals days of summer, but then I remembered, oh yes, I live in the bay. I feel like I have gotten jipped this summer! It seems like every year, without fail, I get to experience that one magical summer night. Where the weather is warm and inviting, you are out with friends, or with that summer crush, just being outside, feeling like you are doing something slightly sneaky, just being outside, late at night enjoying the warm weather. Its usually around the fourth of July where you get to sneak kisses underneath the fire works, or an unexpected beach trip that leads to staying up all night and sharing secrets with someone special. I mean one of those nights! I never got one of those!!!!!!!! Yes, I’m upset! As I sit here (in August, mind you) with my chucks, hat, sweater, wishing that I had worn a scarf, I wonder where my summer went. To me, the magic of summer falls as soon as the boiling sun sets and night meanders its way into the darkened equivalent of a warm spring day. Summer is about taking full advantage of as many hours as possible before you are forced to stay inside and protect yourself from the rain and cold. But oh no, not where I live! The Bay area offers you a full array of winter weather year round, with the occasional teaser of warm weather to remind you that, *smacks forehead, oh yeah its summer. LOL! Seriously, no matter how hot it gets during the day, as soon as the sun sets, the temperature drops down to nothing and we are bundled up in sweats and underneath comforters in the middle of August. No chance for summer magic, summer crushes, summer period. Sigh. Well, I have one more shot to just have a fun summer night when I go to Vegas, but that is mostly a business trip, so I’m not holding my breath! Man this sucks! LOL!!!

 

 

If you will allow me one more tangent, why are we in such a rush for everything? Last weekend, I went to Bath and Body works get some of my favorite hand soap and the saleswoman told me that I should stock up and give them as Christmas gifts. Homegirl, its August, calm down. I promise, as soon as fall hits, then the Christmas decorations go up in late September. So we jump from back to school to Christmas before we can even bat an eye and for what? When we are young, we want to rush to be old and when we get there, we want to reminisce on our youth. We microwave dinner instead of cooking and depend on Tivo to record our favorite shows so we can do fifty other things and then get back to our shows later. We get magazines a month in advance (which I must say is irritating when there are books and movies that you may want to support, but have to wait an entire month to do so) and get to see videos for our favorite artists, months before the CD even comes out. We watch movies instead of reading books, and send text messages instead of talking on the phone. What is the rush? People hardly even have personal relationships anymore, as technology slowly but surely takes over our lives. I can’t even call it man. I’ll take a warm hug over an e-card any day!

Okay, I’m done ranting! LOL!!! Peace Y’all

August 22, 2006

Katrina Documentary Part 1

            I have to be really honest right now and say that my ultimate love for Spike Lee has been revived. Last night was the first half of his documentary on Hurricane Katrina. And in my desire to convey what I saw last night, this is the moment where my frustration as a writer comes in because once again, I don’t have the adequate language to truly tell you what I felt in watching this film. One thing I really love about Spike Lee is that he didn’t beat around the bush and he didn’t tap dance around the issues, he brought everything out front and center for all to see and made us all really look at the tragedy that was the aftermath of Katrina. Even from basic things that you don’t even think about, to the blatant and tragic disregard of those who are supposed to be looking out for us.

            As someone who has deep ties to New Orleans, not just from my days at Xavier, but from my familial ties, I found myself stuck to the television for days after the hurricane, sickened and frightened by what I saw. I felt helpless as I dialed and redialed my brother and fathers phone numbers, hoping and praying that one of them would answer. I watched the people in the superdome, with no running water, over flooded and unusable bathrooms, no medical supplies or help, no basic needs, dead bodies surrounding them as loved ones died from heat and lack of food and water, all sitting in these conditions, and waiting for some type of relief. I watched these images everyday and never once did it dawn on me, that with all of these cameras and reporters documenting what was going on, that there was no help being provided. The people that were being pulled from the rooftops and were being rescued from their homes were being dropped off at the Superdome and left there with the same false sense of hope that someone was coming to rescue them. Spike Lee took it a step further and literally showed what each of Bush’s cabinet members were doing during the DAYS after the hurricane hit. Fishing, shopping, tightening up their tennis game, and claiming that they were unaware of what was going on. Now Bush *drops head and shakes it* Bush’s life…I just can’t call it. Bush sat in his office, sat on his plane, chilled and had various meetings, pretending as though the situation was not as bad as it was. He took trips to Mississippi, giving hugs to white women and kissing babies, defending his decision for continuing to send money to Iraq while people in New Orleans were dying. The National Guard, that can get to anywhere in the world in a day in a half did not show up for days after the hurricane.

The crazy thing is that in 1965 another really bad hurricane hit New Orleans and at that time, talk of the levees not being able to handle the impact of the storm was brought up. So apparently, this is not an old problem. Spike Lee showed a film reel, where President Lyndon Johnson, traveled to New Orleans in 1965 after Hurricane Betsy and was in the trenches with the people who had just lost their homes and possessions. One of the commentators said, that that act of just being there showed the people of New Orleans, that yes, America cared about them and that help was there. Then Spike cut to a picture of Bush sitting in the window of Air Force one looking out of a window at the devastation, never even coming down and viewing the tragedy first hand, except to kiss babies in hug white women in Mississippi. …right.

            One of the most powerful moments in the documentary for me was after the citizens were starting to get rescued after barely surviving for days in the conditions in the superdome, and then they were shuttled to busses and the airports where they were forced to stand for up to 15, 16 hours straight, waiting to get out of there. One of the things that I did not know was that people were being lied to about where they were being taken. Families were literally separated and spread out, without knowing where each other were going. Just. Like. Slavery. Oh man, that was so crazy to think about. One man was saying that it took him months to find where his family had been taken to because there was no way of communicating because no one knew where anyone was. Think about it. How crazy is that in today’s progressive, land of the free, people were still treated like animals, forced to live in unfathomable levels of filth and human remains, being completely stripped away from their families without knowing how to even get in touch with them. Imagine being dropped off in Utah, and being thrown the peace sign and not know how to get in touch with your loved ones. And what I love the most is that the people who were supposed to care the most, were in New York buying Manolo’s.

            Another thing I didn’t know was the fact that the mayor of New Orleans was so gangster! I love how he responded to the tragedy and it literally took him cussing out whomever was listening to the radio that day for help to finally come. He was in the trenches with his people, in the water, not bathing for 4 and 5 days because there was no running water. His only concern was for the welfare of his people. And the governor, let her petty beef with the Mayor delay the help because she wanted to prove a point. Come on! Mark Morial, the former mayor said it best when he said, when there is a situation as big as what was going on with Katrina, you should have enough sense to know that all political beef needs to be thrown out of the window and lives need to be saved. People were literally dying in front of our eyes and she wanted to take time to think about it to prove a point. This documentary is so crazy because honestly, the little things you don’t really think about, like what is it like to be sitting next to your mother, in the heat of a Louisiana summer, waiting for someone to come and rescue you, and realize that she is dead. And then have to sit next to her body for another three days while you are still waiting for help to come and rescue you. Or to hear the water gushing up your door and going back to save your wife who is in a wheelchair and ultimately having to release her and the wheelchair because the water is coming so quickly, and having to watch your wife sink into the water, and there is nothing you can do about it. All while our elected officials, are fishing, shopping and working on their tennis game.

            I don’t know if I am ready for part two…but watching this film has put a lot of things into perspective for me…I’m just saying.

August 21, 2006

Catching up

Oh, it’s been a minute. Things have been so hectic with work that I haven’t had two seconds to rub together to blog, much less, live! LOL! But I’m back. Still busy, frazzled, but at peace because when it all boils down to nothing, I’m happy.

           

            Fantasia:

This weekend, I spent a lot of time, recuperating from work, and I happened onto the Fantasia Barrino story. I’m not going to get on the acting, or the technicalities of the film, but it was her story itself that touched me. I knew that she was a teenage mother and had a hard life, but it was really touching to see her story. She struggled with a lot of issues that I myself have struggled with, and it was really amazing to see how she was able to deal with those issues, and come up from it. And her winning, was not just a matter of luck and talent, it depended a lot on her faith and her passion to provide her daughter with a better life then she had. I felt her. I’m a big fan of hers and it was really amazing the way that she was able to be so open about her mistakes and her past. I know that she was able to inspire a lot of people with that.  And okay, I have speak on Lorretta Divine as her grandmother, who was the minister of her church, who opened up the film talking about how she was a minister despite the fact that she had children out of wedlock by a no count man who ran away from his responsibilities…um…right. But it was an interesting watch. Holler at it on Lifetime.

 

Love:

            So my Rrrosa, sent me a really beautiful email, that I’m sure all of you have read at some point, but there were few quotes, I feel the need to share.

 Love is…

 

"When   someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth."

 

“Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.”

 

"Love   is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday."

 

"You   really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."

 

I thought these were really beautiful and wanted to share. I hope they make at least one person smile today.

 

Purpose:

            So I am currently reading The Purpose Driven Life and man, it is already putting things into perspective for me. One quote that I read this morning that was like a slap in the face was “Don’t mistake activity for Productivity.” For me, I don’t feel like I am accomplishing anything unless I am super busy. But one of the main principles this book is teaching me is to focus in on one thing and dedicate myself to that in order to be productive. If you think about it, it makes a lot of sense. How productive can you truly be doing 30 things at once? But if you take life, one day, one task, one goal at a time, the productivity will increase. That is awesome. This book is really good. I’d recommend it to anyone who is just trying to get their lives together! LOL!! Peace y’all!

August 15, 2006

I'm just saying; Volume 3

Glamour Magazine’s Latest Sensation

Okay, so a few months ago, my girl Jill and I were walking down the street and we were stopped by this girl who said she worked for Glamour Magazine. So anyway, she interviewed us and took our pictures and left it at that. About a month and a half later, I received an email from Glamour asking me about the meanest thing I have ever done. I thought about and I have never done anything overtly mean before, so me being the creative genius I am, made up a story.  After a few email and fax exchanges, I didn’t think anything about it. So yesterday, I was in the grocery store and saw the September issue of Glamour staring at me from the shelf. I grabbed it and shifted through 7000 mascara Prada bag advertisements and didn’t see my picture. So I bought the magazine and gave it a good going through when I got home. I still didn’t see it. A part of me was irritated because I was lightweight amped to be in this magazine, but a part of me was relieved because the story I made up was completely untrue, and really quite mean when you think about it. LOL! So I was flipping through the magazine once again, just looking at the varying types of mascara ( I mean who knew) and lo and behold on the bottom of the page, is my smiling face and my completely fabricated story. LOL!!!!!!! I’m not sure how I feel about it, but it is cool to say that I was interviewed for Glamour Magazine and that I have officially broken into the magazine world! They are not ready!!! LOL!!. Holler at the September Issue, page 246, and no the story is not true! LOL!!!

 

The Bay Area…

Listen. I love the bay, I really do. But all of this schizophrenic weather?! I can’t take it! Even the trees are confused thinking its fall, changing colors and dropping leaves everywhere! ITS AUGUST!!!!!!!! It should not be 24 degrees outside in the sunshine. If this is an indication of what winter is going to be like, I’m moving! Y’all don’t know me!!! I did that whole coldest winter ever thing and I’m cool! I’ll move to Hawaii or something…fly south for the winter. Don’t play me! Lets warm it up out here bay, okay…lets ixnay all of the fog and winter gloom and save that for the appropriate months…kay? Thanks!

Skip- Bo

Anyone who truly knows me, knows that I am extremely competitive about two things. Cal football (GO BEARS) and card games. So this weekend we had students come up from southern California for a program we were having and any time you have 40 black people and some down time, its either going to be cards or domino’s. We had both. So all weekend, I was killen’ em with the Gin Rummy and J Stunnas could not see me on the speed! I was going. So the students broke out another deck of cards that I immediately thought was UNO, another great classic of which I am THE REMAINING PARKER STREET CHAMPION…THANK YOU…(sorry, I had to bang on people who don’t remember the statistics…I told you I was competitive! LOL!). Anyway, this particular game was called Skip-Bo and it is so much fun! It’s a little more complicated then UNO, but just as fun! I’d never even heard of the game, but man was it fun! I’m all about it!! So, a big shout out to my EB students who hipped me to the game!

 

Peace y’all!

August 11, 2006

I'm just sayin': Volume 2

            HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOMMIE!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I’m Just Saying: Volume 2

 

           

Just Chill out Man:

For the past few days I have been extremely anxious and irritated and blah and I’m not even taking those crack pills my Trainer gave me, so I could not figure out what was going on. I began getting tired of everything. Tired of the monotony of the day, of things not happening in the timely manner I would prefer them to, of my writing voice because everything was sounding the same, of the shows on television, of the men in my life, of everything really. So I’ve been trying to figure out what kind of changes I can make in my life. Another tattoo? Dye my hair? Move? I don’t know.  So this morning I sat in my office complaining to my dear friend, who by the way owns THE HOTTEST clothing company in the world: Ragamuffin Clothing Inc., (www.ragamuffinclothing.com) shout out, and he said two words to me, two words that have been ringing true in my spirit, but I have been ignoring it…Be Still. I just need to be still. God is working things out for me, and I need to be anxious for nothing. I need to learn to take people as they are and stop creating my own expectations of them, especially the men in my life. I need to stop projecting my future and just live in the now. So, I hear you Lord. I’m being still…

 

Carol’s Daughter:

            Okay…we all know about my obsession with Carols Daughter. So yesterday, I get a letter in the mail from Carols daughter and instantly I am super excited. I met the owner while in Houston, so of course I knew this was her writing to me to tell me that she wanted to sponsor my entire life and bring me in under her wing. Well, that wasn’t quite it, but it was the next best thing. A few months ago, I placed an order and it took about 6 weeks for them to get it to me. It was funny because there were some things that I’d ordered after the original order that came right away, so I was really confused. So anyway, I called talked to my girl Tiesha, (yes, I have friends who know me there now, and?!) and she promised that it was on its way. It eventually came two weeks later (now 8 weeks after the original order) but I wasn’t really trippen because I was excited to get my stuff. They even upgraded the sizes of a few of the things I’d ordered, so I was cool. So I get this letter yesterday and it was a form letter from the owner apologizing for the mix up with a gift certificate included. WHAT?!!!!! So, not only do you upgrade my products without charging me, but you send letters and gift certificates to apologize for my products getting here late?!! That is awesome!! I love carols daughter and I encourage y’all to support this wonderful Black owned company!! www.carolsdaughter.com!

 

My website:

            So I’m just throwing in a shameless plug for my own website (www.beencee.com). I need to get more hits on it. I will be revamping the entire thing really soon, so check that out. And tell a friend!!! I was told that word of mouth is better then any print advertisement you can get! So lets start spreading the word! Oh and I’m also a bonafide model now! Reppin’ that good RAGAMUFFIN CLOTHING the HOTTEST clothing line out!!! What!!!!

August 09, 2006

I'm Just Sayin': Volume 1

I’m Just sayin’ Volume 1

 

Black People and the Compact Disc…

            Now listen, anyone who knows me, knows that I am a connoisseur of music. I love it! I live and breathe it! I’m the one who will drop my last five dollars on a used Janet Jackson Rhythm Nation CD just to get that old feeling back. So when I get into  your car, or go to your house and see CD’s tossed across the floor and used as coasters, why on Earth, would you ask me to borrow one of mine? AND THEN get upset when I look at you crazy and say no?! Come on now playa, let be realistic. IF I wanted the DJ Clue remix of a song, I would go buy it! I don’t want my CD scratching and mixing, with Diddy in the back talking about take that take that when I get it back from you. So the answer is no…so don’t ask! LOL!!!

 

Flavor of Love…

            Now listen, judge ALL you want to, but I am a FAN of Flavor of Love! This show is THE most entertaining hour I have all week and yes I watch the re-runs! It is not often that I get to fall out and contemplate life on cue, so, yes, I am going to watch this madness and enjoy it! I feel like my Sunday nights are back! I love it!!! The quote of the show for me personally was ahem… “You better stop interrupting my prayers before God directs me to whoop your ass again..” I mean come on now! Tomfoolery at its absolute finest!!!!!

 

Club Music…

            The other day, I wrote about Clubs versus lounges, and I forgot the most important aspect. THE MUSIC!!!!!!!! Now the lounge, played the most amazing variety of music I ever heard. Matter of fact, half of the time, I had no IDEA what the song was, but I was grooving anyway! LOL!! No for real, I had no idea, but the beat will get you. Now, the club, is not quite the same thing. The clubs will literally and unabashedly play the SAME. THREE. SONGS. Over and over and over again, with no remorse, and all of the drunken hordes of half naked people will continue to snap and stare to it until the fight breaks out that ends the ‘fun’. Again I say No Tanto Mucho.

 

Dinner…

            Since my schedule for the summer is a bit more flexible then your average workday, I have been treating myself to nice little dinners at the house. Complete with a variety of menus and sparkling wine to top it off. Its has been fabulous. The other day, I created THE most bootleg marinade ever known to man that turned out to be THE BOMB! Now because I am never one that is selfish, I will share the bootleggedness of my creation. Start with the meat of your choice, I used steaks. Then season as you wish. I prefer the Tony’s Creole seasoning and a touch of Garlic salt. Make sure you get both sides good. Next, take some orange juice, no to low pulp content please, and pour over your meat leaving about a half an inch covering on the bottom of the pan. Next, take some green salsa, (you know the green salsa you get from the Rubio’s or Baja fresh’s of life, with the onions and cilantro) and evenly distribute over the meat. Take a red onion and slice and sprinkle over the meat. Let sit for at least 24 hours in the refrigerator and then cook as normal…listen…it sounds crazy…but that was some good steak son!

 

            Well, I must thank you for sharing in these thoughts. Sometimes, you just have to get things off of your chest…the thoughts that run through your mind… And for all my bay area folks. Please get out and enjoy this rare and so lovely sunshine!! Peace Y’all!

 

August 07, 2006

A few Random Thoughts

A few random thoughts…

 

Clubs VS Lounges…

            This weekend with all of the wedding celebrations and what not…I took full advantage of having my ROSE in town and we took to the streets. I must admit that most of the weekend found me in an Ibuprofen haze, but so be it! The party must go on! Anyway, Friday night we went to the Air Lounge and we quite surprised at the amount of fun we had. There is something about chilling in a dimly lit room with an apple martini in hand surrounded by Black professionals who have sense. Saturday night however was a different story. We went to an actual club and the entire scene was the exact opposite. The air was thick with the smell of illegal substances, the women spent the entire time being as obnoxious as possible and what would a club experience be without the threat on your life as you exit. This time it was bottles being thrown from the window down onto the people outside. And then, as we are walking to the car, there are the greasy, gold tooth brothas who are clearly high and or intoxicated who just want to be your friend…sigh. Of course, this is where wearing clothes becomes a good thing because if you are not showing skin, you are thereby invisible and thereby safe. Turtlenecks it is! So yes, it is lounges from now…thanks.

 

Weddings…

            This weekend was the wedding of my boy Karl Thomas. It was interesting being there and listening to what the minister was saying. During the ceremony, he gave the definition of what a man is and should be and how he should live and in that moment, I had such clarity. I deleted several numbers from my phone, took a good look at myself in the mirror and got my sanity back. Queen B is back in the building and all of the garbage has been cleaned up from around my block. The ceremony was beautiful because you saw two people genuinely in love. He really loves her and she feels the same about him, it was so refreshing to see. Loveliness.

 

Friends…

            My Rose was in town this weekend and it was so nice having her around. This is just a shout out to those true friends who just know you and know who you are and accept it as it is. The kind of friend who can come into your house in between cleanings and be just as comfortable if it were immaculately clean. The kind of friend you can just chill with and enjoy life with. That is important. I loved having my girl in town! Love you ROSE!!! WHOOOOOO!!!

 

Neck Injuries…

            Now, I knew that I was doing too much when we got all dolled up and headed for the club. And yes that was why I spent most of my time with my back leaned against something and no it didn’t stop me from dancing. Yes I did pay the consequences the next day and am paying them now, but damn it I’d do it again! And no it NEVER okay to lean with or rock with it when you have neck injuries…Thank heaven for Ibuprofen….

 

Ghetto Kids…

            A few days ago, I ranted and raved about the educational system and the children in it and how kids are rude and all that. But I owe the kids an apology. Its not really their faults. It is the parents. I recently came in contact with those responsible for rude children and all I am going to say is that the apple does not fall far from the tree. From what I can see, the apple never left the tree…we need to work on that.

 

Braids…

            I recently had the front of my hair braided and I guess they were a little too tight because the result ended in my Rose having to perform a minor surgery on my head. Oh well, the wounds will heal and at least I got some good pictures out of it!!! Take that take that!

 
 

Anyway, that’s it for today! Peace and Blessings!

 

August 04, 2006

He said she said, A call and response

I happened to log onto Myspace this morning and one of my favorite people posted a blog that caught my eye. I read it and because it was something that I have been personally been dealing with, I had to respond. So, here is his blog first and then my response!
Settling…
Everyone settles. It’s no big secret. Though some may deny it. And it begins way before anyone ever notices. It could go all the way back to our parents instilling their own defeatist tendencies into us but we are adults. Lets break the cycle and take responsibility for our own actions. Ill start with a common moment we have all experienced.
Ladies, ladies first, when you first laid down at whichever age and there where no rose petals, no candles, no nice music and your best friend was in the next room or on the floor in the same room. You began a trend. A trend of settling that will continue for the rest of your life, widening the gap between the dream life you wanted and the life you have.
And fellas. We al didn’t have such elaborate details in mind but we surely didn’t imagine things going the way they did. If it’s that she wasn’t as attractive as you imagined. Or that you or you dad had to pay her afterwards. Or that afterwards came so soon. Lets face it. It wasn’t the way we planned.
And we all sought the advice of others more experienced, either before or after. But they most likely passed on their coping mechanisms for the life they settled on. After all, no one wants to admit their failures. We all just begin to make excuses and rearrange our priorities. We hear and say things like: Life is full of disappointment. We have to play the hand life deals us. learn to accept it learn to deal with it.
And so we begin to settle. We lose small battles and adapt to downplay the losses. Instead of regrouping and refusing to accept the loss, we continue to settle. We settle down. We settle up. We settle our differences. Instead of accepting ourselves for who we are, we compromise. One after the other until we wake up many, many years later in a life that is not ours.
This is my biggest fear. Having a life different from the one I planned for myself. I don’t have all the answers, but I do know that I will never settle. It may take longer than I planned but I want it all. The whole thing and nothing less.
Good luck to you all. Never settle. Never compromise. Get it all. The skys the limit.
 Now, My response:
 

I have to admit, I found myself wincing a few times as I read your blog, but I realized that I was doing that because what you were saying was so true. We do settle, and most times we do so because the alternative is loneliness. People are afraid of loneliness. I was afraid of loneliness, but I had to change my thinking. Now I look at it as opportunity. I look at my friends who are in relationships and they always have to check in with their mate before they make decisions because now, there is another person who can be affected by whatever they chose to do. I look at my friends with children and now they can't even go out and the things they may have done because it’s no longer about their wants and needs any more. So, yes, I am single and "sometimes Lonely, but liberated to understand" but the most important thing that I have right now is my freedom and independence. If I want to drop 200 hundred dollars on Carols Daughter, I can, because its just me. I can go to shows, and travel and pursue my dreams and goals, and not clean my house, or keep it immaculate because that is what I want to do. Without having to check in with anyone about it. And that is the difference with knowing yourself and being forced to settle. When you know yourself and you are comfortable with who you are, you won't settle because you understand that you are better than that. I read this forwarded email a friend sent me and it was basically stating the differences between women and girls. It said that women basically have so much going on in their lives that men are necessary accessories, but you can still be fly without them. And I agree. Ultimately everyone wants to be loved and all that, but until its your time are you going to sit around and mope about it, or even worse, be in a relationship with someone that treats you wrong, or is all bad for you, just so you can say you have someone? Why would you settle for polyester when you can have silk? When you have your own LIFE going on, when you are doing your own thing, you don't have time to settle. And the one that is worth it will see that you are worth it too and do what he or she has to do to get your attention, because that is what a true relationship is really about. Two COMPLETE people coming together and complimenting each other. Stop trying to find someone who will complete you and complete yourself. Then someone who can compliment who you already are and vice versa will be a better fit, and there will be no need to settle. One thing you said J, was that “instead of accepting ourselves for who we are, we compromise,” and that is so true. That’s why we need to take this time of singleness and freedom and truly get to know ourselves. I’m excited about this time that I have now and I plan to take full advantage of spending time with me, getting to know me and completing me. I refuse to settle for less than what I want. And that is just the way it is!

Peace

B

August 02, 2006

What good is it?

            For all we know, our blessings are not the fruits of our prayers alone, but those of another praying for us.
Let us not be selfish. We are to be a blessing to others. If you don't share what you have been blessed with, it is not worth having and It can be taken away...”

            I got this quote from my affirmations that I read every day. Every once in a while, something will stick out. This was it. How easy is it to expect for someone to do something for us, but then not even think to return the same gratitude to them? Or even to someone else. We live in a time where people are very much so about their own business. Forget what you are going through, its all about me. But if you think about it, how far can you get by yourself? We really do need to take time and do something good for others. Stop being so selfish with our time and our money and our thoughts and use that to be a blessing to someone else. Tomorrow is not promised, and it is true that all of the material things we gain down here will stay right down here when its our time to go. But won’t it make you feel like a better person knowing that you sacrificed that 20 you would have spent on lunch even when you have food at home to help a friend out with gas money? The saying that the Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away is so true. Really take some time and listen to your friend when they are saying that they need help. They might not outright say it, but you can always tell when there is a need. Try and do one nice thing for someone else everyday without the expectation that there will be a reward for you in return. You would be surprised at how much of a blessing you can be to someone else, just by being nice.

Peace.

B


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